Posts Tagged ‘support’

Where’s Your Focus?

Tuesday, May 25th, 2010

Coaching allows me to focus on other people and their needs. I wouldn’t make a very good coach if I didn’t do that. In light of my upcoming marriage, though, I’m wondering: How well am I doing at focusing on fulfilling the wants and needs of those in my innermost circle? How well are you doing at thinking of your closest family members before yourself?

I just took some time to jot down some of my fiance’s best character traits, such as his willingness to go out of his way for me, his natural enthusiasm and friendliness, and industriousness at work and with home projects. I then created an “action plan” for how I will stand in our relationship in such a way as to bring out those qualities–things like being specific in my requests and overwhelming in my appreciation for however he fulfills them, and creating opportunities for him/us to connect with friends and neighbors. Of course, I will also get his feedback as to how I can best support him.

What does generating freshness in my primary relationship have to do with my own wellness? Absolutely everything, as I bet it does for you, too. Paradoxically, it often takes focusing on something outside and bigger than ourselves to make pursuing our own goals that much more effortless and worthwhile. So how will you go out of your way today and this week to meet the needs of others?

If you’d like support in figuring out how taking a new stand in life can propel your own weight and life goals at the same time it enhances your relationships, then please join my next conference call or email info@truceinc.com today.

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Add Your Big Rocks First

Wednesday, March 10th, 2010

I think I was in a Franklin Covey time management class when I first heard (or rather, saw) the Big Rock analogy. The class instructor demonstrated how much easier it is to fill a clear container with the large rocks (which represent your top priorities) first and then fill in the nooks and crannies with smaller rocks, gravel, and sand. Kinda impossible to fit everything in if you start with the small stuff first. That would be like performing a song with just the bass and tambourine.

I wonder: How would your life look if you added the big rocks first? If you focused first on your family, faith, and health, for example, before filling in your day with work tasks and TV? (Most) days, I make a point to get in my workout before checking email. Otherwise, it’s just too easy to get sucked into Facebook and all the to-do’s.

Perhaps it’s time you called a halt to your current way of doing things, and created greater possibilities for your life–lay down a foundation of Big Rocks before building your day on sand. Please join us for the next Self-Truce group life/wellness transformation coaching starting in just a couple weeks. With support, it’s unbelievable what will open up for your relationships, wellness, and more. Shift. Choose a different path. Create traction. Move forward. It’s the transformational dance called Add Your Big Rocks First.

Next blog: When is it actually necessary to focus on the little things?

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Change is Easier in Good Company

Friday, January 8th, 2010

You’ve heard it before: When it comes to accomplishing a big goal, whether it’s making a career shift or releasing excess weight, your odds of success are much greater if someone else has your back. The primary reason most experts give is accountability. Makes sense. But what if there’s something else at play?

After all, no amount of browbeating from your spouse or friend is really going to get you that new job or force you off the couch. Actually, your cheerleading squad wouldn’t even know to get on your tail if you hadn’t in some way communicated what more you were up to in life. I suspect an important shift happens the moment you do two things:
1.) Declare your intention to the world; and
2.) Make a promise to someone.

You see, there’s tremendous power in writing down and verbalizing your commitment; in essence, making it tangible. To “declare” something is to “speak forth” into being. And when you make a “promise,” you “send forth” your word, binding yourself in such a way that someone (even if it’s yourself) can expect fulfillment of your promise in the future.

Pretty compelling stuff. What will you declare today to change for the better? Who will you seek out to promise with your word?

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